Stuart Chaifetz
has an autistic kid. Stuart Chaifetz
sent his autistic kid to school wearing a wire.
Stuart Chaifetz listened to the recording of what his son's teachers
said throughout the day. Stuart Chaifetz
got mad.
So, he released a
Youtube video in which he tells the story, plays parts of the audio recording,
and articulates his angry.
Now, what the teachers said to those kids was
monstrous. Their conversations in the
classrooms were completely unprofessional.
Let's be clear: The teachers were
assholes who deserve to be fired.
I have to say, though, that Stuart Chaifetz is being
irrationally angry about some aspects of this situation. Yes, the teachers were unprofessional. Yes, the teachers obviously did not care for
the well-being of the students. If he'd
focused upon that? This would have been
a great public service that uncovered the deleterious conditions of his child's
classroom. Unfortunately, he did the
thing parents do where they go beyond reasonable criticism and start to become
overly emotional and, so, irrational about their child's treatment. Let's deal with these components to the
video.
"They treated them as if they were sub-humans who could
never tell what they were talking about."
Dude, your kid is autistic.
While he may not be sub-human, in terms of genus / species
classification, he does have some fucked up genes, and so falls in the lower
intellectual spectrum of the species. When
his teachers talked about getting drunk, or their social problems? He most likely did not understand what they
were talking about. He might have
understood the general sentiment of being frivolous and entertained rather than
serious and instructive, but, again, he's fucking autistic. If he could understand exactly what his
teachers meant, he wouldn't be in the class.
That does not excuse what the teachers did. It simply points to a flaw in the father's reasoning.
Complaining that the teachers treated the students as autistic
kids, who couldn't tell what was going on, isn't a reasonable criticism to
make. One hopes that a teacher, charged
with the task of instructing autistic kids, will treat them as autistic
children; that's the point of the fucking class.
The problem, in this situation, is that the instructor exploits
the autistic kid's shortcomings and inability to report their conversations
about liquor and sex. The teachers took
advantage of the kid's disabilities in order to slack off.
That's the complaint to make that speaks to the true
problem. Faulting the teachers for
treating autistic kids as autistic is a retarded complaint to raise, since
that's what you want them to do. What
you don't want them to do is exploit the autism.
"They called my son a bastard."
Your fucking kid doesn't know what "bastard"
means. If they called your son a
"shit-faced cunt dropping", but said it in a nice way? He'd probably giggle like a bastard and have
a grand time.
Granted, calling an autistic kid a bastard is
unprofessional. But the linguistic
utterance is not at all deleterious to your child's self-conception. He's not consternated about his self-worth,
having been called a bastard by his teacher.
He doesn't know what the damn word means, so it really isn't harmful to
him.
The person to whom it is harmful and angering is you, the
father. Because you know what
"bastard" means, and you've that lingering insecurity that results
from the knowledge that you have shitty sperm that produces autistic bastards.
All of that? That's a
problem for you, not your son. It is
harmful to your self-conception, and your feeling of self-worth. Your son doesn't give a shit about the
linguistic utterance.
Now, to be fair, the fact that the teacher is calling the child
a bastard is probably indicative of their incredibly problematic attitude
towards the child. "Bastard"
is not a term of endearment to be used towards one's students. Again, it's an entirely problematic term.
But it's problematic for the teacher to use it, and it's
problematic for the father to hear it.
The kid doesn't know what it means, so the term isn't at all
problematic, with respect to the child's own experience of the situation.
The way to go with this quote isn't to get all huffy about the
term directed at the child. The way to
criticize the statement is to focus upon the attitude it belies in the teacher.
All of that being said?
The part where they tell your son that he'll never see his parents
again, and then sort of laugh while he's crying? That earns the teachers a special place in
hell. So, yeah, Kudos for wiring your
son and releasing this video.
But maybe tone down the parental empathy, and focus upon the
genuine problems of the situation, rather than the parts that just hurt your feewings.